Who Would Want to Spend Their Honeymoon In An RV? (What I Wish I Could Say to People)
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Who Would Want to Spend Their Honeymoon In An RV? (What I Wish I Could Say to People)

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Behind our backs or to our face, people ask this question often. Heck, even Bobby Bones made a snide remark about our honeymoon talking about how there’s no one he’d want to spend that much time with in such small quarters.

Who would want to spend their honeymoon like that?

Why would anyone in their right mind choose to live with their newlywed husband in a 20 year old RV, traveling across the country working different jobs?

If someone had told Heath and I when we were dating that this would be our future together, we never would’ve believed them. Who at 23 is thinking about RVs?

Buying an RV was just a solution to our bigger problem. Back in 2013, when Heath proposed, I had just quit my job. I worked and lived in New Orleans and I was eager to be reunited with Heath in Texas.

While I planned the wedding, I casually looked for jobs online–but mostly watched Gossip Girl all day–when this idea crept into my head. I wanted to be a writer. Heath wanted to be a writer. We needed to do something that would open us up to have the time and freedom to write.

At this point, Heath really didn’t like his job either. (I’m not convinced that anyone at 23 actually likes their job.) Sales felt grimy. He worked and complained constantly. He didn’t know what he wanted to do in life, but he knew software sales wasn’t it and he was ready to get out.

Our unhappiness with our current work positions gave way into conversations about the type of life we wanted together. We wanted to accomplish our dreams, like publishing books and traveling the world. We wanted to tackle our bucket lists now, while we were young and vibrant and not too afraid to take risks. (Although for the record, I was terrified).

Our goal had nothing to do with working in each state or RVing across the country. Our goal was to create the type of life we wanted, instead of letting life keep telling us what to do.

An extended honeymoon quickly became the perfect solution. It’s customary to take a honeymoon after the wedding, why not extend ours to give us a runway to chase these things we wanted? No one could argue with that. (Surprisingly, there’s even an Old Testament Bible verse to confirm this: “If a man has recently married, he must not be sent to war or have any other duty laid on him. For one year he is to be free to stay at home and bring happiness to the wife he has married.” Deut. 24:5)

When we talked about this with our pre-marital counselor, she encouraged us, stating that if we traveled somewhere far away from our family and our comforts, it would force us to grow together. We wouldn’t be able to run away to our friends when things were rough. We could only run to each other. I thought that was beautiful.

So it was settled. Our extended honeymoon idea first gave us a five month runway to write books–hopefully by the beach in California. That plan slowly spiraled into a road trip, into a 50 state tour, into a seven-month RVing trip.

Our honeymoon plan transformed into something I couldn’t tell anyone about, because it sounded too crazy.

As you know by now, Heath came up with the crazy idea to work a job in each state, found us a sponsor, upgraded our plans to include a documentary, and suddenly our trip was no longer just a honeymoon, but a full-on adventure.

[If you have no idea what I’m talking about, read more about Hourly America here.]

People ask me why I would agree to this, or what we really thinking during this time, so let me tell you what it is I wish I could tell these people who don’t understand why we did Hourly America.

A week in an all inclusive resort in Mexico or the Bahamas for our honeymoon would’ve been fun. I could’ve worked on my tan. Heath could’ve lathered himself in SPF 1000 each day to protect his fair skin. We would have great memories from that time, just like all of our other married friends.

But it wouldn’t have changed our lives. It wouldn’t make us better people. It wouldn’t challenge us. It wouldn’t have any influence on what our marriage would look like.

We wanted to do something that pushed us toward the life we wanted for ourselves. That often meant worrying about money, fighting over the GPS, crying because I had no idea what I was doing trying to film this documentary, and a whole lot of stopping to remember why we started traveling in the first place.

Like anyone about to get married, we had big dreams for our marriage. We looked to the marriages around us. We didn’t want to be cynical or set in our ways. We didn’t want to work, buy a house, have kids, and shop at Target. The marriages we admired most were the ones who traveled, who learned new things often, and who knew how to make big, difficult decisions in life together.

We wanted to push each other. Heath, when worrying about what life would be like if he stayed in his job, would ask me to be the person in his life who would never let him settle.

We wanted to do more than just what people or culture expected. We wanted to create, to challenge, to inspire–even if the only people we inspired were ourselves.

At face value, spending your honeymoon in an RV doesn’t sound romantic or desirable. But doing this one crazy thing gave us the life that we had dreamed for ourselves two short years ago. We travel. We write. We film–something we didn’t yet know we loved. We work together.

So yes, our honeymoon in an RV doesn’t look very sexy on paper. But it helped us become the type of people we wanted to be. It launched us into the type of marriage we wanted. That’s what I wish I could tell the people who assume we’re crazy, or that we’re so poor we have to live in a trailer, or that we’re so rich that we can afford to travel all the time, or that we’re just plain weird.

We’re really none of those things (or maybe we’re a little bit of all of those things). We just got tired of talking about chasing our dreams and decided to just go for it. RV and all.

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  • It’s a life of fullness, when even the plain things become memories, laughs, or painful challenges you can’t laugh about until later. Keep chasing that life you’re dreaming of…it sounds like maybe you’ve already caught it.

    • Thanks Brittany! It’s people like you and Eric who blazed the trail ahead of us and teach us how to build a life on the road that make it all possible.

  • People who questioned your plans might be nuts. I have a hard time coming up with a better honeymoon! Adventure, connection, character growth, challenge, quality time, and so much more.

    I really admire that you and Heath make your marriage a priority, make each other a priority, and work hard to have adventures *together*

    • Aww, thanks Janelle! I think the people who question us are perhaps just too sane, too normal. Or maybe they’ve tried camping in an RV and realized just how small the showers really are.

      • Well after you say “I do,” there’s no need to shave your legs anymore, right?! So what do you even need a big shower for anyway?! 😉 haha.

        I don’t know how you manage the RV shower with such long hair though!

        • Basically I complain everyday about how my hair is too long, say I’m going to cut it, and then get really attached and explain how I would never cut off all my hair even though I use sooo much shampoo.

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  • John and Katie’s RV Honeymoon

    We got married two months ago and are also doing a year long honeymoon and faced a lot of “are you crazy?!” opposition initially from family and friends! I think it came from worrying about our financial stability or health insurance, or that it could be tough on our relationship, or that they’d miss us, were afraid we’d never come back, or a combination of all of them. I honestly faced the same worries when my husband first mentioned the idea but we are in the thick of it now and are so glad we took the chance! We still want to settle down and have kids eventually but knew this was our chance to see things and grow in ways we never would have otherwise or until we were old. Keep enjoying your travels and doing what you’re doing!! 🙂

    • Yep, you’ve just summarized exactly what it was like for us a couple years back 🙂 Where all are y’all traveling to for the next year?

      • John and Katie’s RV Honeymoon

        Haha! Everywhere we can! We started in Philly and are now in the Pacific Northwest! Hit a lot of the major cities/national parks along the way and will be heading down the coast, across the South and back up to New England next summer, maybe longer if we continue to be good with the budget! It’s so cool that you guys did every state! We have been toying with the idea of Hawaii but aren’t sure and wanted to do Alaska but were afraid it would be rough on our rigs, which we’ll probably be selling afterwards…there are just so many places to see, it’s hard to choose!

        • Awesome! We are heading to Portland for the first couple weeks in August. Maybe we’ll be in the Pacific NW at the same time!

          • John and Katie’s RV Honeymoon

            Nice! We probably will be! We’ll be spending a good amount of time in Washington but are super excited to see Oregon for the first time soon! 🙂