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I want my blog site to be better. I want all my readers who have signed up for my newsletter to be receiving cool formatted emails instead of just arbitrary text. I want to have a book available on my site for people to download.
These are a few of the thoughts that go through my head every day. I look at someone’s blog like Jeff Goins or Michael Hyatt and I wish my blog was as awesome as theirs. They have so many courses available for readers, they have a podcast, and even really cool pictures on their header. I want those little things for my own blog.
I find myself comparing my blog to these established writers over and over again. It feels discouraging to say the least, demotivating. Why should I even write when they are obviously further along than I am. Why would anyone ever want to read my blog?
Ever felt this way?
Okay, just me I guess.
I realized a long time ago that comparing myself to people who are in ahead of me is something I should never, ever do. It makes me feel insecure and it gives me unrealistic expectations. I have only been doing this blogging thing for a year or so. The truth of the matter is, I don’t deserve to be where they are. I lack the experience and maturity in my writing. Not to mention the resources needed for building educational courses, starting a podcast, etc.
I’m content with being where I am, even though I’m steadily working to get better every day. I’m okay with my blog not having the “best” design. Why? Because for the last 30 days I haven’t missed a single scheduled post. I also blog for my sponsor company, Snagajob, and I haven’t missed a deadline with them since I signed the contract. What’s important to me right now isn’t being the best. It’s crafting the skill that’s most important to me and my future, which is my writing itself.
If you find yourself constantly comparing yourself to others, I’ve found the following things can be really helpful to think about:
- Firstly, try your hardest to realize that you are perfect just the way you are. Be willing to accept the person you are today, even if that means you’re working towards something better. If you can’t like or love who you are, then don’t expect the world to fall in love either. Be willing to accept a realistic view of yourself.
- Secondly, don’t compare yourself to people less fortunate than you. If you develop the habit of making yourself feel better because at least you’re “not as bad” or “unfortunate” as this person, you will inevitably compare in the same manner for people who are “more fortunate” than you. You can’t sway one way without the other. Stop giving yourself a confidence boost by looking at those below you and you’ll find yourself not becoming discouraged when you see those above you.
- Lastly, focus on consistently improving your skill. If you’re constantly focused on becoming better, you have less time to worry about your rank on the totem pole. If you’re more worried about ranking anyway, you’re probably not doing it for the right reasons.
Getting past comparing yourself to others is one of the most difficult things to do in 2014. We have sites like Facebook where people no longer just post random facts about themselves, it’s really just a social site to post all of life’s mundane accomplishments. Don’t be fooled, everyone has their own troubles, just like you.
Have a great Friday 🙂